Essential Differences and Similarities in Teen and Adult Violence

Activity based assignment
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Activity 2
What are the Essential Differences?
On a larger scale, teens have a significantly higher probability in comparison to adults
since they are still developing coping mechanisms and skills of life. Teens are still forming self-
respect and therefore any time there is a related abuse, it tends to destroy them more compared to
the adults. In other words, the abuse is destructive in teens compared to the adults.
What are the Essential similarities?
The two categories have a similarity in that violence in both categories is about power
and desire, and control of predominant factors. However, it is notable that some of the main
factors that affect teen violence is reliance of the adolescents on peer approval, lack of dating and
relationship experiences and reluctance of the adolescents to confide in adults and authority
figures.
Married adult women would find it as an obligation to remain with an abusive partner
than understand why a teen victim would show the same insecurities and loyalties. In other
words, both categories easily show the same loyalties and insecurities even if there are some
elements of abuse among the partners. Just like the wife keep staying with the husband in violent
times so does female teens keep staying with their partner during those insecure times.
Do you believe early life experiences with domestic violence sets patterns and expectations
that could lead to a greater likelihood of entering abusive relationships in adulthood?
Explain your answer referencing the power and control wheels.

Yes. I believe early life exposure or experiences with domestic violence sets patterns and
expectations that could be a major contributor to entering abusive relationship in future.
According to the power and control wheel, at a very early age, violent families acts as a breeding
for future violent individuals in relationships. It is very probable that such children will develop
patterns of conduct that would mimic the exact types of behavioral characteristics of batterers
and victims. Every lesson and experiences they learn from their childhood go with them into the
adulthood. Just like in adults, female children who have experienced violence and have observed
violence in their parents tend to develop mistrust of males and negative attitude towards
marriage, viewing violence and other forms of abuses as natural and normal because they are
things that they have passed through and seen. On the other hand, boys tend to increasingly adopt
the same beliefs concerning women including the sex roles and the application of tactics of
controls.
The studies show that it is potentially dangerous for the young children to remain in a
chaotic and violent family or the environment. Children who are exposed to violent
environments potentially under-produce the full range of brain cells, in effect there is usually
consequential permanent negative impact on the socialization skills development. Additionally,
studies reveal that children who have been exposed to violent environments have exhibited post
trauma disorders like bedwetting and nightmares. In some instances, some victims of domestic
violence are usually fearful of their partners and thus, focus their anger on children in
disciplining even when it is not necessary. The children therefore stand greater chance of being
neglected and this will affect their future life as they grow into adulthood.
Activity 3
Question 1

The mother, still has the memories of the past experiences, whenever she thinks of what
happened a while ago, she becomes afraid and thrilled that it would repeat itself. It is evident that
the mother has been distorted by the past experiences such that even though they are a new
family, she still feels that the same things that used to happen before would happen again. She is
made to feel that things would go wrong again not by choice but by default. It is notable that by
default, memories have a role to play in shaping the future. According to Pahl (2016), memories
form an important segment of the life history of human development. Violent parents tend to
make their children develop insecurity and fear (Pahl, 2016).
The other distortions are that the mother is assuming the worst; in other words, she
estimates the likelihood of an action having a negative outcome. Because of insecurity, the
mother finds herself deciding that something would go wrong before it does. This is very
dangerous because it might not help at all in making the marriage work out.
The last distortion is that sometimes, the mother finds herself having overly high and
unrealistic expectations. The mother has high expectations of seeing her husband behaving
differently from how he behaved in the past including expecting him not to argue or quarrel. On
the contrary, a normal marriage must have arguments and quarrels, however, the method,
mechanism or strategy you will use to handle the quarrel or argument matters a lot. It is out of
the strategy or the mechanism for the control of the argument that would determine whether the
argument will land into a fight and violence or not.
Question 2
The children are at a higher probability of being affected in their future adult
relationships. They have developed fear and any time they would see their parents quarrelling

they would hold their breath. It is a concern that in future they would hardly have trust in male
figures if they are females and female figures if they are males. In fact, they will fear marriage
and it is highly likely that it will take them a lot of time and efforts to decide whether they should
carry on because of what they had consistently observed occur in their own family- the people
they trusted (Johnson, 2016).
Question 3
I would advice the mother to have a positive mind and eliminate the negative cognitive
distortions for example expecting that something bad will happen. According to Erten and
Keskin (2018) when you expect something bad to happen, it will obviously happen because we
do not get what we want in life but what we expect, staying positive about her marriage always
should be her slogan and daily bread. While it is acknowledgeable that past experiences are not
easily forgettable, it is important that she keeps hoping for the best. Hoping for the best starts
marking the journey to redressing the love-life of a marriage and cover up all the filthy rugged
spoilt phases of life that were once lived irrationally. Is doing so as a couple, they will help a big
deal in shaping the children and making them gain their confidence in them. If they shape their
life and make out their marriage work out in the best way possible then the children distressed
mind and negative attitude towards marriage would vanish over time.
Activity 4
Pat 1
Filled the form
Part 2

Basic clothing
Money
Means of communication (mobile phones)
Some snacks
essential documents
A few sheets
Part 3
SAFETY PLAN
Being safe implies that:
Knowing that I am in the right hands.
Knowing what am required of.
Having some clues of what could probably happen next.
Having the composure that I and anyone around that I care will not get hurt.
Being confident.
Feeling good.
The people I can quickly get in touch with when I sense I am in danger:
1. ________________________ mobile number: ________________
2. ________________________ mobile number: ________________