Expectations for a Perfect Relationship

This essay discusses the expectations for a perfect relationship, including deal breakers, communication, and building a strong parent-child bond. The author emphasizes honesty and open-mindedness as key factors for a long-term relationship.

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FEW EXPECTATIONS, I HAVE FOR MY PERFECT RELATIONSHIP
Name of the Student
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Author Note

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Introduction
The perfect relationship is generally comprised of the imperfect beings, they form a combination
of any type and imperfections are bound to be there within that combination. In my opinion, the
relationship, which helps me to become better, the one that gives peace instead of tensions,
complete understanding between each other, and the relationship where one knows how to
motivate other for their wellbeing are considered as a perfect relationship. This essay focuses the
wishes, which I have for my perfect relationship. The factors are described in this study, which
will help me to develop a perfect relationship. This study involves the ways in which I figured
out my relationship at the beginning, how and where I will be dating with my partner and what
will be my plans f0r serious relationships.
DISCUSSION
The beginning of a perfect relationship:
I have seen many of us remain busy in feeling butterflies, planning outfits and composing text
messages, but there are also certain things, which I would be doing at the beginning of my
relationship. I want to ensure that the vibe between my partner and me start on the right foot, and
the relationship would continue in an orderly and fabulous fashion.
At the very beginning of my relationship, I would like to mention all the deal breakers I have
with my partner, which will be fair with him, and there will be no wastage of either our time.
According to me, it is better to pull the plug at the beginning only if there are any
incompatibilities addressed. There is some choice of deal breakers like some never wants to have
kids, some never want to be married and some are not close to their families, all these should be

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mentioned sooner than later. I would like to be true to myself, which will help me to move
forward in my relationship. My previous relation did not work out, as at the beginning of that
relationship we did not crosscheck each other to make sure that whether we both were looking
for the same things. In my new relationship, I want to make it work out in the long run process,
so I will better make sure what my partner and I are looking for than showing sparkling version
of myself towards my partner (Pines, 2013). I would like to remain in a committed relationship
and I will like to give much love, time and energy by making sure that our relationship will be
fulfilling for both of us.
I would like to meet him at my mature age. After knowing each other from the online platforms,
I want him to ask me out for a date in his favourite place, and this will help me to ensure whether
his choice is convenient for me or not. I do not want my first date to be a precious candlelight
dinner instead; I will like to go for an open space where we will be freely and comfortably
knowing each other. We can share each other’s wishes, lifestyle, career dreams and a real portrait
of ourselves on our first date. I always like to pay bills, as I do not prefer to eat food whose bills
are paid by somebody else, as I feel uneasy to order food whose bills will be paid by someone
else. I would like to open doors by myself as I like to do things on my own, it will not be
comfortable for me if somebody opens doors for me. I would like to talk every day with my
partner as I would like to share my daily experiences and I want him to share his daily
experiences with me. By talking, every day I will be feeling connected to him and I feel that
communications are the most significant factor for a healthy relationship. My relationship talk
will involve the future wishes, planning, childhood memories, career-oriented dreams, family

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attachments and others. I want my partner to know real me for growing a strong and long-term
relationship.
Dating:
I will be dating my partner after 1 month of conversation; I would like to communicate in a
friendly manner, which will involve my childhood memories, career-oriented dreams, family
attachments, future wishes, planning and others. I would like to carry out the communications by
which we can know each other better and we need to support each other in every aspect, which
can only be possible by better knowing each other. I would like to continue the intimated
relationship talk after at least 2 to 3 months as that much time I would be required for getting
comfortable with that person. I wish my partner to follow a monogamous relationship as I am
fond of a monogamous relationship and I will mention my wishes to my partner, which will be
better for us to understand each other (Yoo et al., 2014). In my dating, when we need to make
any decision, the joint decision should be taken, I will not be imposing my decision on him
neither I would like him to impose his decisions upon me. If any conflict arises, then the things,
which are creating problems for us, I would like to have discussions related to those things. This
may occur but we both should develop our understanding to clear those issues among ourselves.
Serious:
When we will be able to grow a serious relationship after deciding about our future then in our
family we both will be working, as I am a career-oriented person, I want my partner to be the
same. We will be helping each other in fulfilling our own dreams and I believe that every person
needs support in fulfilling their wishes. We both should grow a strong parent-child bond by
managing time for our child, we both will be motivating our child towards their dream, and teach

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them regarding life skills, behaviour management. We should also treat our child and encourage
them to become self-sufficient and self-reliant. We need to make our child participate in
religious activities. We will take precautions for protecting our child and maintain awareness of
child’s activities (Perrin et al., 2014).
In every relationship people fights, which is normal, but the way they resolve their fights and
admit their mistakes reflects perfectness in their relationships. Conflicts can arise in our
relationship, sometimes we cannot control our anger and we may become violent, but this only
happens occasionally, then we should patiently resolve our problem. Sometimes we may become
violent but we should control our feelings as this create a huge effect on the other person. Every
relationship in the world comes up with some different flaws and imperfections and it depends
upon us whether we will be manipulating those flaws as our advantage or we will be remaining
with those flaws throughout.
Conclusion
Therefore, it can be concluded that a strong, healthy and long-term relationship can be developed
by the diligence, awareness and sense of being present in the moment. The honesty and open-
mindedness are the key factors for a long-term relationship. The relationships have its own set of
flaws and imperfections; we should manipulate those flaws and use them for our advantage for
growing a strong, long-term relationship. I want my partner and myself to grow a strong parent-
child bond; we should give effort on the factors that will help us to develop a strong and healthy

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parent-child bond. I wish all these things in my relationship and I want my partner to be honest
and open-minded toward our relationship.
References
Perrin, E. C., Sheldrick, R. C., McMenamy, J. M., Henson, B. S., & Carter, A. S. (2014).
Improving parenting skills for families of young children in pediatric settings: A
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Pines, A. (2013). Couple burnout: Causes and cures. Routledge.
Yoo, H., Bartle-Haring, S., Day, R. D., & Gangamma, R. (2014). Couple communication,
emotional and sexual intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. Journal of Sex & Marital
Therapy, 40(4), 275-293.