Self and Perception - Understanding the Unique Personality

This article discusses the importance of understanding one's own personality and self-perception. It highlights how our past, present, and future situations shape our behavior and personality. The article also emphasizes the role of family and friends in shaping our beliefs, thoughts, values, interests, and behavior.

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Identification of personality and self-realisation form in our mind from our
adolescence. From this period, we start to think about the uniqueness of different
personalities. It is the personality that distinguish one human being from another. Our family
is the place from where we first learn that every different family member has different
personal self. Personality of an individual is determined how he perceives the phenomenon
around him and how he reacts on that circumstance. My personal self is determined by how I
see the world and how the world sees me. Every different people I meet daily has different
perspective and my presence is seen differently by each of them. These perceptions of myself
on the eyes of others are never similar. However, my family and friends are vital to identify
and form my self-perception because they have taught me to shape by belief, thoughts,
values, interests and behaviour.
I feel, my personality reflects my past, present as well as future. To me it is the
situation I was in the past or the situation I will be in future will incur my response therefore,
situation can be seen to be one of the major factor that change our behaviour. Now, behaviour
is the reflection of what we see in our families. For example, in case of death of a close
family member, the children of the family see how the other people are reacting on that
situation. Therefore, with change of situation our response changes so also our perception.
To my family and friends, I am very amiable and impressive character through very
much interrogative. I like to lead or guide as well as help others when needed but do not feel
to dominate or stress them to assign with my beliefs and values. This is because I feel
everyone in this world is unique in their own way and have different perspectives. I am an

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open minded and acknowledge what is better. To my family, I am a shy person who has a
small friend circle and satisfied with life. To my friend I am sympathetic yet short tempered.
To them I am a good communicator and can express what I feel. These are the contrasting
features that has made my personality different from others.
In understanding the self, I must first judge the perception I have built since my
childhood. There are some important factors that had helped me in defining my personality.
As mentioned before, personality is a unique characteristic which is determined through our
past roles, present feelings and future insight. We identify the factors in our environment and
select the stimuli knowingly or unknowingly. Based on these stimuli we respond which
sometimes led us to confusion. However, situational stimuli led us to react and we find a
group of people having similar perception. Thus we have different culture and different
beliefs.
My awareness of who I am is developed when I start to communicate with the world
outside as well as with myself. Through the interpersonal interaction, I identify my
perceptions, attitudes, ideas, images and inferences. In addition to this interpersonal
interaction with my self helps me to realise my feelings, experiences, evaluations and
interpreted my state of consciousness. Based on these factors my personality is built which is
reflected through my decisions, communication as well as actions. My personality is not
static but very flexible. It changes with the change of situation and the feedback we get from
the others. Positive feedbacks from the family and friends gives us confidence about our
belief and attitude whereas the negative one led us either to change of perception or
unassertive reaction and avoidance.
As mentioned before, the personality of a person is reflected through his
communication or action. After we mend or amend the personalities, we present ourselves to

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the world. It is done through communication or reaction that determine our exposure or
disclosure. We judge others critically or empathetically so also our friends and family. Their
feedbacks reveal whether we are argumentative, advocative, effective or impressive. Our
perceptual errors led us to become stereotype thus unacceptable for the ever changing society.
Therefore, it can be concluded that in case we fail to determine wat we are or what
makes us different from the other, we will be in grave problem in life. Without proper
understanding of personal self, we will never be able to nature unique beliefs and personality.
This will lead us to be controlled by others in unproductive and undesirable ways.

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