Understanding Self and Others: Developing Key Skills for Personal Growth

This document discusses the importance of understanding oneself and others in personal development. It explores key skills such as time management, public speaking, resilience, and assertiveness. The document includes a reflective personal development plan journal and an action plan to improve these skills. The subject is self-development and the document type is a reflective journal.

Understanding self and
others

Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION...........................................................................................................................1
MAIN BODY...................................................................................................................................1
Reflective personal development plan journal ................................................................................1
Summary and action plan.................................................................................................................9
CONCLUSION..............................................................................................................................11
REFRENCES.................................................................................................................................12

INTRODUCTION
Understanding self and others is an important aspect of developing personality, In order
to become successful the key requirement is to know yourself first and then someone else. Every
individual is born with some amount of competencies which one needs to realise and enhance
those traits for the personal growth. It is often seen that people who are able to connect with
others and understand their aspirations, needs are considered as role model in the society.
Therefore personal development needs self awareness and incorporating appropriate skills to
motivate others. In the report four skills have been discussed are public speaking, time
management, Resilience and assertiveness. These skills will be explored and what are their
importance in relation to personality development and future career. In report contradiction with
respect to the skill will help in understanding other point of view (Angus, 2012). Afterwards an
action plan is created that explained the strengths and weakness where an analysis is made that
about what can be done to improve those areas for self growth.
MAIN BODY
Personal developing plan is a procedure of effectively identifying the strengths and
weaknesses. Understanding the true potential is significant for obtaining great personality, this
process includes making people aware of the qualities which makes them stand out from others.
Enhancing these skills can provides benefits like achieving high position along with popularity
among people.
Reflective personal development plan journal
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Pro-forma of time management
What is the core skill?
TIME MANAGEMENT- It refers to the process of making plans on how to manage time.
This skill is associated with dividing the tasks, deciding how much time does performing
certain activity requires and then spending hours accordingly in completing them. Setting
priorities in life and giving them due focus is part of this skill. People who are not able to
do that face health issues and lower productivity.
Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on?
It important to possess this skill as it helps in reducing stress and anxiety that happens due
to overload of work. When each task is done as per the fixed time, it will lead to increased
efficiency as the work is done in an orderly manner (Chesser‐Smyth and Long, 2013). I
have selected this skill because according to me this skill plays huge role in building one's
career. It has helped me throughout my academic as well as working years with the time
management due focus on specific activity increased my productivity and coping up with
the stress.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviours to answer this
question)
As far as I know I am very competent in managing time, this can be seen from the fact that
I topped consistently during my school and college year. Even while working my peers
often asked me how do I able complete my task in short period of time. This has become
possible due to my time management trait. I do not face issues like stress and anxiousness.
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Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there
a match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
There are not much contradiction in my perceptive and others about my competence with
regards to this skill. As even from the point of view of my peers they agree to the fact that I
possessed this skill.
How will this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
Managing time is essential for the career growth. This skill is required for the successful
career therefore this will help me in reaching up to the higher positions like CEO. This will
also be helpful in running business which is my future goal. Giving proper time to those
activities which are beneficial helps in reducing stress. And good health is important for
living better life (Doherty and Doherty, 2018).
Pro-forma of public skill
What is the core skill?
Public speaking- This skill is connected with the communicating with the audience and
delivering the message or an idea in an effective manner. Good public speakers are able to
sell their idea through their ability to speak. They are able to convey their thoughts which
later becomes the part of discussion amongst public. voice modulation, body language,
stage presence, confidence are the key characteristic of public skills. It plays huge role in
motivating and influencing people.
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Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
This skill is important in various sectors like businesses, education, consultancy etc where
one needs to express their thoughts through effective communication. I have selected this
skill because it is important for the personal growth and self development and in corporate
world one needs to have the ability to form connections which is important for the survival.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence?
According to me I have good public skills as I always able to influence others through my
words. Being team leader of group it was required for me to explain my team members on
various matters (Hattie, 2014). This skill help me in motivating them and guiding them in
right direction. Based on my relationship with the my colleagues I can say I am very
competent in Public speaking.
Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there
a match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
Yes there are few contradictions which have been found. The way I think about my public
speaking skill is opposed to what my peers think about it. As I was told by them that I am
not able to convey messages effectively which causes confusion and these are the things
therefore further improvement is required. Clearing thoughts before representing them
confidently among people is what needed to be done in order to enhance such skills.
How will this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
These skills are important for the growth of my career as having such attributes will help
me in becoming a role model. I will be able to communicate my thoughts effectively and
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overcoming issues like conflicts between the members. Team members will not be resisting
change and accept decisions taken by me
Pro-forma of resilience
What is the core skill?
Resilience is an ability of dealing with the difficult situations. Person having this skill can
sustain all the hardships of life and manage to come out of it without anybody's help. This
is possessed by very few individual as tough situations test the patience of person hence
one needs to be extremely calm, composed and patient. Various businessmen became
successful because they have developed these traits over the years. Human's emotions are
sometimes hard to handle they can the affect the mental health of person. It is essential to
have positive outlook and confidence to face difficulties.
Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
This skill is important for me because I lack patience and sometimes It became hard for me
to cope up with the difficult situation. Adapting to the changing times requires resilience
and there are few measures which I have taken like meditation which has helped in
calming my emotions. In workplace this trait help in dealing with stressful situation and
work effectively. It also leads to personal growth (Huang, 2016).
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviours to answer this
question)
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I do not possess this skill. There are situations like the loss of my loved one which has
affected my mental health. I could not come out of it successfully, even at workplace I can
not face too many obstacles due to the lack of resilience.
Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there
a match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
No I do not think there are much constriction as to what I think and others think of me
having this ability. My peers have also suggested me to develop such skill as they have
noticed my behaviour during tough situations.
How will this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
Developing this skill will help in improving my personality. Facing challenges is required
to achieve higher growth in career this helps in reducing stress and overcoming hurdles
which is a part of becoming successful. Each experience taught you something and makes
life more interesting though it is not easy to build these skills in a day lots of time and
efforts are required.
What is the core skill?
Assertiveness skill is associated with ability to take stand for yourself as well as others. A
person having this trait does not bow down to the pressure and always stood for the rights
of people this is very strong skill which helps in providing distinctive image of person in
the eyes of others (Komives and Wagner, 2016). It helps to express in clear and appropriate
way therefore an ability to empathise with the values, belief and emotions of others and
responding to their needs makes an individual assertive.
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Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
At workplace this skill is essential to deal with politics, it is often seen that powerful prey
on vulnerable that's why assertiveness is required to be able to deal with such elements.
People are not able to express themselves freely faces difficulties during their career. I
think women at workplace face harassment due to the lack of assertiveness. Very few
women can stand up their right and put across their views therefore this trait depends on
the type of personality as some people are born with it ad others may not.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviours to answer this
question)
As per my view, I do not possessed this skill and is vital for me to develop these this
attribute as there are situations where I feel very powerless and insecure due to the lack of
assertiveness. My family and friends have also told me that according to them I have to be
more assertive and fight battles on my own (Liebenberg, Ikeda and Wood, 2015)
(Steinbeis, 2016).
Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there
a match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
No, with regards to this skill both me and my peers agree that lack this skill.
Communication and learning to say no where I do not feel comfortable are the two main
actions which I am taking to improve my situation. There is very thin line between
assertiveness and aggression therefore one should know the limits and then express
accordingly.
How will this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
Development of this skill is important for building self esteem, also dealing with the
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uncertain situations. Success goes into the hands of those who knows what they want from
life, this characteristic ensures that and create great personalities. If establishing successful
businesses is part of future plan then this trait is the core requirement. This will help in
brightening my career and achieving objectives. This also requires significant amount of
time and efforts by believing in yourself (Timmons, Pelletier and Corter, 2016).
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Summary and action plan
Analysis
It has been analysed that there are various skills which are important for the personal
growth and development. Each skills plays significant role in enhancing the personality of
individual. These are the foundation of successful career therefore they can either be identified
with the self assessment or developed through participating in activities.
Action plan
This plan is associated with identification of the strengths and weakness and planning
effectively to achieve growth on career. Strengths are the abilities of person that helps in dealing
different situation while weaknesses are the areas where person lacks and has to work hard to
make it work in their favour. An action plan is created to in response to that this will help in
providing detailed understanding of various aspects of personality.
Strengths- After the self evaluation it has been discovered that my strengths are time
management and public speaking as I have able to deal with the work related stress in an
effective manner.
Weakness- From the self assessment my weaknesses are also discovered, assertiveness
and resilience are the two main areas where I needed to work. Even though I am good at public
speaking but further improvement is required in this area.
Development
area
Specific Measurable Attainable Relevant Timely
Assertiveness This is needed
to be
developed by
me as this will
help in
standing up to
my rights and
express my
self more
confidently(Fe
To analyse
weather I have
achieved these
skills can be
measured by
making
comparison
between the
way I behaved
in the past and
These are
attainable and
can be
developed
through
communicatio
n and learning
to say no
(Winter,
Bohus and Lis,
This will help
in becoming
powerful and
secure in the
working
environment.
It also helps in
empowering
others
Even though
duration can
differ but
such skills can
be attained
with the 1
year.
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lton and
Jowett, 2015).
In my future
this aspect will
help in
building self
esteem.
in future also
based on the
perceptions of
peers.
2017). One
can achieve
higher
assertiveness
with time and
effort.
Resilience This trait
refers to
dealing with
difficulties of
life and
overcoming
them
successfully.
These are
important for
the emotional
stability
It can be
measured on
the basis of b
how
effectively the
challenges are
being faced
now and to
what extent
person's
emotional
strength has
increased.
These are
realistic and
can attained
with
performing
activities like
meditations
and personal
hobbies. These
are useful in
coping with
the traumas
that one has to
faced in life.
Such attribute
helps in
improving the
mental heath
of an
individual and
ensures longer
sustainability.
Around 4
months of
duration is
required to
acquire this
trait.
Public
speaking
This is related
to conveying
thoughts and
messages
effectively to
the people
around you. It
requires strong
presence, body
Measuring
them can be
done on the
basis of
opinions of
team members
as according
to them they
were not able
Conflicts can
be avoided
through this
These are
useful for
good
leadership at
workplace in
order to lead
team
members.
Within the 5
months these
skills can be
achieved.
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language,
powerful voice
and
confidence to
retain the
attention of
large number
of people.
to understand
my point of
view.
CONCLUSION
From the above report it has been concluded that there are certain competencies which
are important for the personal growth these ensures achievement of high success. One needs to
do self assessment for understanding itself and others to improve weakness and enhance
strengths. These factors play key role in personality development.
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