Self-Assertiveness and Positivity in a ReFLECTIVE JOURNAL

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UNDERSTANDING
SELF AND OTHERS

TABLE OF CONTENTS
REFLECTIVE JOURNAL..............................................................................................................1
ANALYSIS......................................................................................................................................6
ACTION PLAN...............................................................................................................................7
REFERENCES..............................................................................................................................10

REFLECTIVE JOURNAL
Skills 1: Assertiveness
What is the core skill to develop?
The skill required is assertiveness which is to be developed so that a person can stand up for
himself and for others in calm and positive manner without getting aggressive and accepts if
something is wrong (Hillson and Murray-Webster, 2017). They are those who proves their
point without upsetting others.
This skill examines personal rights of an individual such as thoughts, beliefs and feelings with
honesty. Person with such skills should respect rights of others.
Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
Skills of assertiveness brings confidence in an individual as it helps to know one self and what
attributes and values one have. This skill is beneficial in organization and all field of life.
These help to build great managers by treating people with equality and fairness. Such
managers are liked by everyone and employees feel comfortable to work with such people.
They have capability to negotiate and solve problems quickly to bring win-win situation.
People with these skills tries to find out the best solution of any problem and never feel
stressed if things go wrong or without plan. They also learn to 'say no'.
I choose this skill to reflect because these skills helps in expressing thoughts & ideas and also
motivates others. It helps in expressing feelings in positive manner. It builds self-confidence
and make people stand for themselves and accept challenges.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviors to answer this
question)
From my assessment, I think I possess assertiveness because I am not shy and speak up for
myself when anything happens wrong. I stand up for my colleagues when they can't express
their thoughts and feeling. I have a feeling of earning respect from others. I also have good
communication skill.
When I collected feedback from peers, it was found that they also feel that I have quality of
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assertiveness as I listen to views of others and take actions if I think those are correct for my
team. I always listen to opinion of others and stand up for others rights. I respect every person
opinion and take actions with honesty so that everyone feels comfortable.
Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there a
match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
I think there is a match between my ideas and peers thought in office. I am what they feel. I
work on a principle of give respect and take respect. I participated in various quiz that were
conducted online on various sites and the answers reflected that I possess such skills. I have
abilities to respond to problems quickly and find out the best possible solution of problems.
Being assertive does not mean to force people to work according to.
How might this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
I am a good assertiveness holder but I will have to develop more skills such as easy flow of
communication and maintaining social relationships. These skills can be improved such by
being passive in every situations. It helps to determine rights without hurting someone else’s
rights and duties. It increases self-esteem and minimizes hurting other people. It safeguards us
from not trapped by others. It helps to take decisions and give ability to express thoughts in
positive and negative manner without hurting others. These skills help an individual to know
what is best for his interest.
Skill 2: Time management
What is the core skill to develop?
The next core skill is that of time management. It can be defined as balancing of time by
proper planning, organizing and division of work & activities within given framework
(Steinbeis, 2016). A good management enables to work smartly and complete task in less
time. Inability to complete task in given time would bring stress and may cause damages. It is
important for people who have more than one task to do and have busy schedules.
Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
Time management is essential in everyone's life. Highest winners achieve success by
managing their time. Time management helps to improve production and operation in much
better and effective way. The person with such skill are relaxed and calm, and stay away from
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stress which opens more chance for advancement and helps to focus more on career
development. It helps in proper planning and organizing of task in scheduled period.
I selected these skills to reflect on because it helps to achieve more in less time and effective
management . It improves ability to take decisions as great time management skill which will
help to make better decisions. It helps to give time to oneself for relaxation and medication.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviors to answer this
question)
I always had a good time balancing skill but when I started working in an organization I
realized I don't have such skill. I am unable to complete my task on given time and cannot
complete work with given deadline sometimes. In order to complete task on time, I do
blunders in my work which further gets rejected by superiors.
I collected feedback from my peers and found out they also think I have poor time
management skill. I can't complete my given job on time and take longer periods to finish my
work. I easily get distracted in other things and don't concentrate on my work.
Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there a
match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
When compared with self-assessment and suggestions from peers it was found that I not at all
possess skills of good time management (Gardner and Garr-Schultz, 2017). I am not at all
good at utilizing my free time and do work in effective and efficient manner. I need to plan
and organize my time. There is a need to make daily timetable to see how much time I require
completing a task and focus on reducing the time.
How might this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
Time is an important resource which one's gone will never come back. This skill is very
helpful in the future. There are people who blame lack of time for their poor economic
conditions. By proper management, we can spend our time in doing valuable things and make
correct decisions. Time management helps to achieve more in less time. It minimizes wastage
of resources and energy and enable us to complete task on time.
Skill 3: Resilience
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What is the core skill to develop?
It is important to build skill of resilience. It is important at workplace and helps to determine
stress and strains and how well a person deals with them. It is an individual ability to respond
and react when things don't go as per planning (Maslach and Leiter, 2016). People with such
skills don't worry about failure and take it in positive manner and learn from them but
sometime it affects our power to bounce back in adverse situations.
Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
Resilience skill are necessary to fight the future uncertain situations. People with such skills
take every task as a challenge and learn from those mistakes. They are strongly committed of
work and their goals. They are not only committed towards work but are also dedicated in life.
They have positive image of days ahead in the future. Such people are determined,
compassionate and dedicated towards their work.
I selected these skills because these may help me to become a manager at workplace and
handle uncertain situation in better way. This will improve my learning and helps in
successful achievement of goal.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviors to answer this
question)
After assessing myself, I found out that I possess this skill of resilience which would help me
to become a good leader in my life. I have ability to learn and grow from experience. I try to
maintain good relation with others. I have capability to handle things and view challenges in
positive way (Schmeichel and Vohs, 2018). I have good problem solving and communication
skills. I never give up in adverse situation. I participate in every event and gets involved with
people I am working with.
My peers think that I am not compassionate towards my work. I waste time worrying what
others think. I fail to maintain healthy working environment. I can't find solution for many
problems and am always dependent on someone to guide me to complete my work. They
think that I am not dedicated towards work and gets hyper when anything wrong happens.
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Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there a
match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
When I evaluated myself, I found that I have core skills of resilience. So, I measured my
resilience on scale and scored 21 out of 25. Then I realize that I have resilience skill but need
to work more on them. I also agreed with my peers that I get angry sometimes with work and
face difficulty in handling adverse situation. I need to work on this and develop ability to deal
with pressure. I think I am capable of learning these skills.
How might this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
Skills of resilience are very beneficial as they will help to cope up with difficult situations
with calmness. This helps to see everything in positive manner and adjust to hardships. It
helps to overcome stress situations. This attribute will help me face setbacks and help me
understand that failures are there in life which does not mean to lose confidence. It will
improve my communication skills. It will help to build intelligence and manage emotions.
Skill 4: Team Work
What is the core skill to develop?
The core skill of team work is essential in an individual. Team work is an ability of a person to
work in a group towards achievement of objectives and goals. Working as a team is crucial
part of business and is important for employees to work well at workplace. It helps to face
difficult situations at work and focus towards achievement of mission. Successful team is one
in which skills and abilities of all employees are combined for achievement of goal.
Why is this core skill important? Why did I select this skill to reflect on? (use relevant
theories and concepts to support your answer)
These skills are important for a person to work healthy in a team. It helps to motivate people
and fosters loyalty and relationships. Working as a team makes people more focused and
dedicated towards work (Myowa, 2018). Working in a team involves brain-storming which
increases ability to solve problems and find solutions in effective and efficient way. When
teams are good then production and operation capacity also increases. Working in a team help
us to complete task much quickly.
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I selected to reflect on these skills because a healthy working environment of a team will
involve skills and abilities of everyone and support each other point of view. This will help to
take quick decisions. It helps to bring unity at workplace. It helps to build confidence and
open more opportunities. It helps in personality development.
Reflect on your current competent regarding this skill. How did you assess your
competence? (use your self-assessment findings, feedback from peers and your tutor,
plus your own reflections on your thoughts, feelings and behaviours to answer this
question)
It is my capability to work as a team as I have a positive attitude towards my work
(Hassenzahl, 2018). I support my subordinates in organization and help them if they are stuck
somewhere. I always put my point of view and also listens to others point.
When I collected feedback from my peers, I found out that I can work very well when comes
to working as a team. I have ability to solve complex task and I am very cooperative with my
team members. I share my problems with my subordinates and always ask them to give some
suggestion. I involve everyone in decision making process.
Can you identify any contradictions from your analysis above? For example, is there a
match between how you see yourself and how others see you, or not?
I found a match between how I see myself and how other see me. I discovered that I have
ability to work as a team, have communication skills and participate in decision making
process. I can work with confidence and complete my task on time.
How might this skill help me in the future? (use references to support your argument)
Teamwork skills are very helpful in overall growth and development.
Teamwork skills are important for overall growth and development of a person. These skills
solve problem in short span of time and builds confidence. It involves everyone point of view
when working for a project. It teaches us to respect each other and maintain relationships.
SUMMARY
A person is required to do self-assessment ones in his lifetime to find out weakness and
strengths. Various steps are to be followed to overcome weakness and build new opportunities. It
helps to know our self and get close to personality. It helps to find out our skills, flaws, abilities,
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behaviour (Catmur, Cross and Over, 2016). It helps to know how a person handles positive and
negative attitude. A self-analysis process will help to give a clear view of where we are and
where we want to go. For self-analysis various test and quiz are conducted on websites which
helps to give a clear view of oneself.
From my analysis I found out that I have attributes of assertiveness. I am confident
enough to manage difficult situations. I handle everything with calmness and positivity. It was
found that I have good communication skills. I take actions for uncertain situations and rescue
people. However, I need to work more on to improve my core skill of time management. This is
where I lack the most and will have to learn to manage my work on time.
With reference to resilience, my self-analysis doesn't match with that of others. I need to
work on this and improve my skill for resilience. I will have to learn to face adverse situations in
positive way. I need to control my anxiety and become calm. From the analysis I have
concluded that assertiveness and time management are my weaknesses and I need to work on
them and manage my time to avoid delays in project. I have also found my strength which will
help me in further growth. I possess good leadership, communication, assertiveness skills.
Further, an action plan is been prepared to know about development needed in various skills.
ACTION PLAN
Skills Need of these core skills
and person with such
skills
How these skills can
be developed
Time period required to
attain such skills
Assertiveness Person with such skill is
required to be calm and
honest. He must handle
difficult situation in
positive manner. There is
need for such skill to have
a stand for own and able to
express their feelings and
demands.
Assertiveness can be
developed by having a
strong belief in yourself
and trying new and
challenging task to test
your skills (James,
2017). By identifying
skills and ability to
measure emotional
It can be developed by
learning and practicing.
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intelligence of your
own and of others. By
being patient and
communicating in
better way. By not
taking stress of any
situation and staying
positive at every
situation.
Time
management
Such person is required to
be dedicated towards work
and focus on completion of
task in effective and
efficient manner (Adams,
2017). There is need for
such skill to know how
precious and valuable is
time.
These skills can be
developed by making
small schedules of
work, prioritizing every
task according to time.
Setting a limit for every
task. By distributing
work to other so that it
can be completed
quickly.
These skills can be
gained within 15 to 20
days.
Resilience Such person needs to have
ability to bounce back
adverse situations and face
failures as part of learning.
These values are required
in order to meet problems
in an individuals' life and
face threats and tragedy as
a part of learning (Gill,
2018).
Such skills can be
developed when a
person participate in
events which are
challenging and
meaningful. By having
strong commitment
towards life and goals.
By not wasting time
worrying about others
and their thoughts. By
This requires so much
practice to be honest,
calm and patient. Can be
gained in a month.
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focusing on things
which can be changed
over a time-period.
Team work An individual with such
skill is required to be
active and participate in
decision making process.
These helps to
communicate openly in
group. These skills help in
problem solving and
decision making. It fosters
an individual to work as
“we”.
Team work skills can
be developed by
indulging in group
discussions,
participating in various
programs organized for
improvement of such
skills, knowing your
roles and
responsibilities and
working to improve
them, by knowing
yourself and self-
disclosure. When group
members' cheers and
appreciate each other’s'
performance.
Can adopt these skills
within a month.
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REFERENCES
Books and Journals
Catmur, C., Cross, E.S. and Over, H., 2016. Understanding self and others: from origins to
disorders.
Gardner, W.L. and Garr-Schultz, A., 2017. Understanding our groups, understanding ourselves:
the importance of collective identity clarity and collective coherence to the self. In
Self-Concept Clarity (pp. 125-143). Springer, Cham.
Gill, R., 2018. The Self-Medication Hypothesis and attachment theory: pathways for
understanding and ameliorating addictive suffering The twentieth John Bowlby
Memorial Lecture. In Addictions From an Attachment Perspective (pp. 51-74).
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Hassenzahl, M., 2018. The thing and I: understanding the relationship between user and product.
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Hillson, D. and Murray-Webster, R., 2017. Understanding and managing risk attitude.
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James, M., 2017. Advancing Design Thinking Towards a Better Understanding of Self and
Others: A Theoretical Framework on How Buddhism Can Offer Alternate Models
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its implications for psychiatry. World Psychiatry. 15(2). pp.103-111.
Myowa, M., 2018, October. The Origins of Understanding Self and Other: New Perspectives on
Social Cognitive Development in Humans. In Diversity in Harmony–Insights from
Psychology: Proceedings of the 31st International Congress of Psychology (pp. 124-
144). Chichester, UK: John Wiley & Sons, Ltd.
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self in logical reasoning and other information processing. In Self-Regulation and
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