ENG 2205: A Deep Dive into Unfaithfulness, Trust, and Relationships

This essay explores the concept of unfaithfulness in both friendships and romantic relationships, highlighting its devastating impact on trust and emotional well-being. It delves into the reasons behind unfaithful behavior, such as selfishness, lack of communication, and unmet emotional needs. The essay further examines the differences in how men and women may approach infidelity, emphasizing the importance of admiration, trust, and open dialogue in maintaining healthy relationships. It concludes by stressing that while building strong connections requires time and effort, addressing issues promptly and fostering effective communication can help prevent the damaging consequences of unfaithfulness. Desklib provides students with access to a variety of academic resources, including essays and solved assignments, to aid in their studies.

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According to some people, friendships does last forever than lover relationships. However, it is
not true as some people often lose their friendships. There are a number of reasons due to which
friendships do not last long. One of the reasons behind broken friendships is the unfaithful
friends. Unfaithful friend is the main reason behind the betrayal between two people.
Unfaithfulness often result from selfishness which in turn leads to the end of friendship as no one
wants to be in friendship with a selfish person who is just concerned about his own self.
Selfishness lead them to unfaithfulness towards their friends as they do not care much about
anyone else. This makes hardhearted when their friend need their help. However, they don’t
mind asking for help anytime when they need. This is not the real meaning of friendship.
Friendship actually means a relationship of mutual affection and is considered to be a stronger
form of social bond which demands trustworthiness, loyalty, empathy, etc. When these factors
are missing, a friendship cannot survive in the long run. Unfaithfulness in a relationship can even
become a cause of depression and loneliness (Block 200).
When there is an element of unfaithfulness in the friendship, it is likely to make the friendship
inactive. Such friends are always found to be gossiping behind the back and taking advantages
from them. Such unfaithful friends sometimes pretend that they are always there to understand
and listen but the reality is that they don’t even care regarding the life of their friend and can
even disclose their secrets without even giving it a second thought (Macmillan 877).
Now the question arises why do women and men cheat? The answer to this question provides a
number of reasons to such unfaithfulness. The biggest reason among all is opportunity and
unhappiness. Relationships or friendships are based on love and affection and sometimes the
situations lead people to forget to converse properly ultimately causing unhappiness.
Unfaithfulness is also found between the relationship of a men and women. Men cheat as they
miss the feeling of admiration and feel undermined and criticized (Zembylas 13). Therefore, it is
important to feel admired and trusted in a relationship whether it is between a men or women or
between friends. The arising of constant arguments means the existence of in- depth issues which
in turn leads to lack of emotional connection and bond between a man and woman. When men
start believing that they don’t do things correctly this ultimately leads them to lose their self-
esteem. Then they start creating a distance in the relationship which ultimately results in cheating

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and the destruction of the relationship. When men do not get any sort of positive reinforcement,
he gives up all his efforts and gets at the worse stage of lack of connection. This further makes
the partner feel more abandoned (Fincham Lambert and Beach 649).
Cheating by women, on the other hand, is a last resort when they feel to be betrayed by their
partner. They also desire to be appreciated by their partner. The surrounded environment also
encourages them to cheat as it makes cheating more acceptable for them. Such surrounded
environment consists of the friends with whom they spend most of their time. When their
attempts to re- connect with their partner emotionally gets neglected they decide to cheat. In
other words, it can be said that unfaithfulness is the ultimate result of lack of proper
communication. Mature adults can healthily avoid such issues by openly talking about it
(Dosmukhambetova and Manstead 109).
The emotional bond between a couple is interrupted though cheating. Unfaithfulness results in
break of trust along with giving a shock to the betrayed partner. The creation of stronger
partnership, relationship or friendship can be a tough process and may take time so that the root
issues can be properly worked out and trust can be developed (Watkins and Boon 240). When
informed trust will be developed, slowly and gradually I get converted into blind trust.
Therefore, due care should be taken while making friends or entering into a relationship with a
person as there are severe chances of betrayal in both the cases. However, unfaithfulness in a
relationship can be eliminated by ensuring proper communication and solving the issues in due
time without making any delays in order to save the relationship from getting further damaged.

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References
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