1QUESTION & ANSWER How often do you engage with or witness death in your work? How has this experience or the lack of it shaped your view of death? Has it gotten easier or harder for you to accept the fact of death? As you explain, include your clinical specialty. When I was at the age of 22, I became a Family Practitioner Nurse (FPN), after I graduated in 2010. Usually I used work in both the private homes and hospitals taking care of the family members and also the patients. I used to take care of all the residents of all age group. I used to take care of them from hospice to their passing. Initially, my heart used to melt down and got broke when some family member passed away because you get attached to them when you start spending time with them. You consistently watch them as you spend time with them. It used to affect me very much since being so young; I was still in that state of myself being invincible. Initially, I used to remain emotionally broken after seeing five or six deaths of members in the family (Sinclair, 2011). But, later after experiencing a lot of deaths, I started detaching myself emotionally from passing away process, so that I would be able to take appropriate decisions and take care of family members in better way, especially to those who are at their last stage of their lives. Also, one of my senior helped me coping with my problem as he said – “Death is a natural process in the field of nursing, and it is a regular experience for the nurse. So as soon we make ourselves strong, easier it would be to cope up with the dying process. Delaying it will keep on hurting me.” That is why, I started prioritizing the family members about how I take care of them, rather than thinking about myself of how I felt about the process. I made sure that that they are respected and given dignity till their last stage (Sinclair, 2011). But as time passed by, I started getting used to the death process. As I continued to experience the deaths of various family members, I started to understand the meaning of life and
2QUESTION & ANSWER continued todiscover its meaning by sitting at the bedside of those nearing death. I started to understand that it can be easy to talk about someone’s birth or buying a new house or a car; but it is very hard to talk about death. It is your own belief, value and culture that shape the decision making and thinking process. Also, after seeing so many deaths, it became one thing clear that it benefits a dying person when you just stay near to the dying person, talk to them about the past life, and spend time with them. They feel comfortable and forget the pain for dying. Even though, end of life can be considered as a debatable and the most difficult stage of life, but it also gives great meaning to the people who are alive teaching them the importance of life. Along with that, it gives them hope and knowledge regarding the incurable disease and also teaches those individuals who will unavoidably face their death in the coming future (Peters et al., 2013).
3QUESTION & ANSWER References Peters, L., Cant, R., Payne, S., O’Connor, M., McDermott, F., Hood, K., ... & Shimoinaba, K. (2013). How death anxiety impacts nurses’ caring for patients at the end of life: a review of literature.The open nursing journal,7, 14. Sinclair, S. (2011). Impact of death and dying on the personal lives and practices of palliative and hospice care professionals.Cmaj,183(2), 180-187.