Sociology Reflection: The Impact of Fatherhood on Life

This sociology reflection essay explores the profound impact of fatherhood on the author's life. It begins with a description of the joy and transformative experience of becoming a father, highlighting the unconditional love and motivation that fatherhood provides. The author discusses the challenges faced, including financial strain, career adjustments, and mental health issues, while emphasizing the importance of being present for his wife and child. The reflection also covers the adoption of techniques to balance fatherhood and professional life. Drawing on sociological concepts and supported by cited works, the essay reflects on the personal growth, societal expectations, and the enduring impact of fatherhood, portraying it as a blessing that fosters resilience and personal development.

RUNNING HEAD: SOCIOLOGY 0
Sociology
7/27/2019

SOCIOLOGY 1
One of the greatest days of my life was the day when my son was born after three years of
marriage. We named him, Mohammad Aljabbanan he is a Syrian and was born in Kuwait.
The first time I held him and gazed into his eyes I felt like I want nothing else apart from him
in this world. The warm sensation of him made my entire body tingle with joy and no words
could define how happy I felt that day. Becoming a father is the biggest lesson one could ever
get in this life. Before my son was born, I was a careless person with no motivation but
watching him growing up, I grew up too. My son has been my motivation to succeed and
every day I wake up to work harder for them. The amount of love we share is the greatest and
unconditional. Fatherhood is about not your own wants and needs but your child’s need and
wants (Welldon 179).
All this did not come without difficulties; I had to become financially strong to take care of
my wife and child. The feeling of becoming a responsible father is beyond words. The
process of delivering of a child from a mother’s womb is a magnificent experience for
women because childbirth is a natural endeavour but for a father it is magnificent in several
other ways (Laney, Tamara and Willingham 126-145). I had to leave my college in mid due
this unplanned pregnancy of my wife and to nurture my family. My life took a toll due to
crisis of studies and my parents abandoned me because of having the decision of this baby.
I had to leave my city to move for the job to get a better package to take care of my all
necessities. I had to withdraw all my savings to give my child a sense of livelihood but not
for a day I felt bad for spoiling my life. When this child was in my wife’s womb, it made me
stronger and more driven to demonstrate everyone in surrounding wrong and to lift my head
high always. Every blessing come with some shortcomings, not much money, totally self-
dependent affected my mental health in several ways. I had to deal with severe issues by
myself though I had a number of friends who really helped me in hard times.

SOCIOLOGY 2
There is a constant feeling of being ‘good enough’ for your child. The mood swings and
phycology plays a huge part. Postpartum depression was a thing that hit hard most pregnant
women face and I tried to be there for my wife every time. There are challenges which have
to be taken care for leaking breasts, dirty laundries, sleep training and controlling of temper
issues (Zhou 751-776). Some effective techniques that was adopted to balance fatherhood
and professional life were getting some alone time for myself, doing of things that made me
happy, targets to achieve small goals, joining of social media communities (Lupton 25).
In a nutshell, being a parent is a blessing it helps you to grow and endure what seems
impossible in the beginning. It gives a feeling of warrior for the child.

SOCIOLOGY 3
Works Cited
Laney, Elizabeth K., L. Anderson Tamara and M. Michele Willingham. “Becoming a mother:
The influence of motherhood on women's identity development.” Identity 15.2
(2015): 126-145.
Lupton, Deborah. “It just gives me a bit of peace of mind’: Australian women’s use of digital
media for pregnancy and early motherhood.” Societies 7.3 (2017): 25.
Welldon, Estela V. Mother, Madonna, whore: The idealization and denigration of
motherhood. London: Routledge, 2018.
Zhou, Muzhi. “Motherhood, employment, and the dynamics of women’s gender attitudes.”
Gender & Society 6 (2017): 751-776.