An Analysis of the Sex Life of Married Christians: Challenges

This essay delves into the multifaceted aspects of the sex life of married Christians. It begins by exploring the biblical perspective on marriage and the purposes of sex, highlighting procreation and the expression of love and intimacy within the marital bond. The essay acknowledges the challenges faced by Christians in the modern age, including the influence of secular culture and selfish interests, and discusses issues such as extramarital sex. It emphasizes the importance of commitment, communication, and seeking God's guidance in navigating sexual difficulties, including the need to overcome barriers to intimacy. The essay concludes by reinforcing the significance of recognizing God's role in marriage and the importance of cultivating a strong and loving relationship to overcome challenges in the sex life of married Christians.

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Sex life for Christians is one of the most debated, especially in the current age. Sexual
awareness has been existent from the time immemorial since it is natural to the human mind.
However, today sex and intimacy is overly stimulated by sex-saturated entertainment and news
media. Apart from blatantly displaying the sexual content, objects have also been labelled as
sexy. These include items such as beverages and computers to body lotions. These issues have
widely affected the sex life of married Christians and the way they treat sexuality. However, to
put the issues that relate to married Christians sex life into perspective, we need to understand
God's purpose of marriage and sex.
Christians everywhere on the globe understands and agrees with the fact that they are in a
kind of sexual wilderness era. There is a lack of the right guidelines and directions. The situation
has resulted in dire costs in the society such as health crises, financial losses, family breakups
and lack of sexual happiness and fulfilment. Few people have little to no knowledge about the
significance of sex (Witherington, 2012). Many believe that it is an evolutionary accident.
Therefore they have an assumption that anything goes so long as it happens between two
consenting adults. But this assumption is, and it avoids addressing the question of where
marriage and sex originated from.
There different purposes as to why God created sex and marriage. The first purpose is the
most obvious which is for the reproduction and procreation of the human species. From the
biblical scriptures, the first reference of sexuality is that God created human beings both male
and female (Mohler, 2014). He also blessed them and told them to be fruitful on the land. That
means that God intended the sexual relationship to be part of his creative process. Secondly, sex
was meant to show love in marriage. It is clearly understood that only human beings have sexual
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interest even when the female is not in the conception period. It shows that human beings can
make love as a way of showing intimacy in marriage other than just reproduction.
The sex life among the Christians is meant to express love to their spouses. Sexual
relationship is a gift that God gave to human beings so that it can unite the husband and the wife.
However, just like any other gift, this gift can be misused. Some people can misuse sex where
they become unfaithful to their spouses (Pourakbaran & Amin Yazdi, 2015). Extramarital sex
can be seen as normal some in societies, but the Christians are not supposed to engage in the act.
Christians call it a sin, and it was punishable through death in the Old Testament. God’s high
value for marriage means that human beings are supposed to treasure and commit to it.
Christians are required to continually improve their marriage and cultivate timeless and deep
love to avoid such temptations as extramarital sex.
Apart from God’s intended and primary purposes of sex among Christians, other issues
emerge most of which are selfish interests among the spouses. Some of these include the
common practice among males to manipulate women to get sexual favors. Women also
manipulate men so that they can get other favors in return. Sadly, the method can also be found
among some married Christians (Hall, 2014). When such selfish interests or attitudes occur in
marriage, one or both spouses use sex to obtain something. This attitude deviates from the
original purpose of sex which was supposed to give and express genuine love. True love as God
designed it is an act of freely giving. In Christian marriage, pure love is an act of being eager to
help, please and encourage.
Sexuality in the Christian life was created by God to be a powerful force. God created it
to be a tool for powerful bonding between the married couples. Making love releases vital
hormones such as oxytocin which enhances bonding and dopamine which is a “feel good
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hormone.” Married Christians who have regular intimacy experience great bonding with one
another. God created intimacy so that the husband and the wife could find pleasure in one
another. Unfortunately, the powerful force behind intimacy can be inverted to bring negative
consequences in marriage (Pollmann‐Schult, 2014). Sexual issues in many marriages are the
primary causes of breakups. When a couple does not devote their effort to commit to one
another, it always brings a problem in their marriage life. It can be understood that there are
seasons when sex cannot be a priority. For example when a woman is going through cancer
treatment or has delivered after going through difficulties in pregnancy. However, most of the
couples who do not commit to sexual intimacy do so due to reasons such as usual busyness or
just because they do not see it as a priority.
As a way to overcome the intimacy barriers among married Christians, one has to
understand that building a successful and thriving sex life requires effort. Struggling is a normal
thing when it comes to sex due to the nature of our fallen world. Christians also have to
recognize that things do not always work the way they were intended to be because of the
imperfection in human nature (Hall, 2014). Therefore, it is essential that people expect
challenges and difficulties in their sex life which means that they will always find solutions when
these difficulties arise (Montemurro, Bartasavich & Wintermute, 2015). Instead of having a high
expectation of a comfortable life after marriage, Christians should be prepared for difficulties so
that they can address them when they inevitably arise. When people recognize these facts, their
sex life will be exceedingly easy, and they won't be surprised by everyday challenges.
In conclusion, married Christians like anyone else experience challenges and issues in
their sex life. These issues are usual in any couples life. Every couple has different problems
when it comes to love life. However, Christians should not be troubled by some of these
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challenges because they understand the primary purpose of their marriage. They should seek
God’s guidance in their love life so that He can help them to continue committing to each other
even in the time of difficulties. Another advantage with the Christians is that they already know
the secret to building a strong marriage bond which is by first recognizing God as the driver of
their life and seeking for His guidance in marriage through prayer.
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