Divorce also affects the partners

Running head: FAMILY STUDIES
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Introduction:
This paper focuses on the issue of divorce, which is extracted from a story based on real
life situation of a child named Ashley, who is the narrator of the story. Through the help of the
story the problems and the consequences of divorce can be sensed, as the narrator of the story
has told explained every bit of mentally and emotional struggle went through along with the pain
of her mom and dad’s separation (Kiecolt, 2018). Later she said that after on and a half year of
this incident she is still not able to forget the pain, neither she is able to accept the person as her
father whom her mother got married to, also she shared how she missed her old family and there
is no solution to her pain, neither there is any that can console her. Divorce also affects the
partners who are being separated to core (Brand, Howcroft, & Hoelson, 2017). There cannot be a
permanent solution to such problems, however, some measures can be taken at the beginning of
the situation and after the divorce situation in order to mitigate the harsh consequences of the
divorce; which devastates not only both the partners who are in that marriage but also their
surrounding people, especially their children who find it hard to digest the shock of their parent’s
separation along with the falling apart of the family (Schramm, et al. 2018).
Story:
Ashley: I still precisely remember the moment when my mother came to me and said
“Ashie! you me and your father want to share something to you”, as she rarely uses my
nickname while calling me so I was amazed and have sensed that they must have to say
something really serious! Giving a weary look to her, I asked her to come to my room and saw
that my dad was already in my room waiting for us to join. I did not say anything and followed
my mother and we sat on the bed next my father. I noticed that they looked at each other and we
all were silent for a moment then my mother initiative the conversation by saying, “honey, I and

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your father love you...” then she paused and said, “you already know this right?” she asked in a
interrogative voice. I said, “Yes mom, what is wrong with that!” I noticed some weirdness in
both of their expressions, which I just could not understand. Then my father after taking a deep
breath, said directly without a pause and in a rushing manner that “I and your mom are getting
divorced”, I was shocked! I remember looking at them with great shock, in a shivering voice I
said “You are...” and that is utmost I could go and all I could say. They became silent as if they
were letting me digest the sudden shock and giving me time to process myself after hearing to
what my dad had just said to me. All I could remember now is that at that very point of moment
my senses got numb, my legs and hands were all shaking and I was unable to wrap myself up
from the idea of this unfortunate reality that my parents were splitting up for life. My father held
one of my shivering hands with his hand and I looked at him and my mom with great sadness
and (Rauh, Irwin & Vath, 2016). Although, I was not in a condition to talk as my voice was also
chocked, but I still gathered some stability and asked them with a cracked voice, “Why...?” and
mother said it is because “sometimes things just does not work the way we want them to”. Tears
were falling from my eyes, which I did not even realised. Mom pulled me towards her and
hugged me tightly saying “Oh honey”, I was feeling weak and lifeless that I let her hold me for
some time; then again I asked, what would happen to me? With whom I will live now? Father
was still holding my hand and I was tightly hold his hand and at the same time holding mom in
my arms tightly. Again, I asked in a whispering voice, why this is happening. She leaned away
and looked in my eyes and said, “it is going to be ok”, but I was still not ready to understand
what is happening and how it could be. Mom and dad looked at each other and dad said there are
things, which needs to be sorted. I interrupted between them and asked, what things? At that very
moment, I was forcing myself to stop crying, by saying to myself, that it is time to act like a big