Managing a Personal Conflict

Two years ago, the author faced a personal conflict at work when the boss proposed to marry them. The conflict escalated when the boss's youngest wife felt threatened and started making threats. The author used conflict management tips to handle the situation, including managing emotions and getting more information. Eventually, the author decided to quit their job. The experience highlights the importance of conflict management in personal matters at the workplace.

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Two years ago, I was given an opportunity to work in a hotel industry by a close friend of
mine. His father was the proprietor of the hotel as he is one of the richest business tycoons in my
home town. His son did a good job recommending me to work as the cashier but little did I know
that the soon to be my boss had a hidden agenda towards me. He was polygamous in nature and I
had heard a lot of rumors from the past of how he took advantage of the young girls he hired. To
make the matters worse, I realized that his fourth wife was my age mate and she was insecure of
the young ladies working with her husband.
Things started falling amiss when he proposed to marry me and promised me a good life
since he was rich and he could give me everything I desired. I put him off by reminding him that
he was old enough to be my grandfather. I even referred to him as a homopithecus so that he
would stay away from me but he didn’t. It wasn’t long before his youngest wife knew about it
and that is where the conflict started. She felt that I was threat for her marriage. She started
threatening me that she could use witchcraft against my family and me. It was at this point that I
sensed danger but I had to maintain my job without causing any harm to anyone. I knew I had to
do something to calm things down.
I thought of quitting my job but then I knew I would lose my salary since the salaries
were released at end month and it was in the middle of the month. I decided to use the conflict
management tips according to Marketing et al (2019) and McDaniel (2011). First and
foremost, I had to come up with a way of managing emotions so that I would not overreact no
matter what I was accused of (Sogunro, 2012). I knew if I stayed positive, everything would be
fine at the end therefore I kept myself busy with watching movies so that I won’t concentrate on

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what people said about me. I chose to ignore all rumors or anyone who would provoke me and it
really worked. I managed to control my emotions no matter how much it hurt me.
Secondly, I used another tip of getting more information especially on where the source
of the rumor was. I got to the bottom of the issue and tried to calm everyone down. I even tried
buying lunch to some of my biggest enemies and befriend them so that they would stop
spreading baseless stories (Robbins & Hunsake, 2011). It was also worked but I had to make a
decision of quitting my job.
In conclusion, conflict management is an important aspect especially when dealing with
personal matters at work place. Patient is the key to solving a conflict peacefully.

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References
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Robbins, S. P., & Hunsaker, P. L. (2011). Training in interpersonal skills: Tips for managing
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Sogunro, O. A. (2012). Stress in school administration: Coping tips for principals. Journal of
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