Attachment Security and Style

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attachment security and style
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Introduction
Childhood attachment and the nature of their family relationships are influenced by the
nature of caregiving across various cultures and parenting styles. Those attachments develop
throughout the lifespan of the child and depend on the contributions and attitudes of others plus
other social factors. The paper discusses the impact of different attachment style as a child based
on attachment theory and how can one improve their attachment security and create a safe and
secure base for their child. Studies have shown that children develop noticeably different
attachment styles with each parent that can impact their behaviors.
According to the attachment theory, an attachment is an association between a person and
the attachment figure. While in relationships among adults, the people feel mutually responsible
as attachment figures, this is not the case in a family between the child and the parent (Prior, &
Glaser, 2006). A child will bond or attach to his parent, instinctively for survival and protection.
The attachment figure in this relation is the primary caregiver. The attachment theory proposes
that individual variances with regard to the attachment security should support the skills,
expectations, and attitudes in the child. There are consistent links between social competence and
attachment security (Veríssimo, Santos, Fernandes, Shin, & Vaughn, 2014). Attachment is
understood based on the emotional closeness that binds the child to his family and prepares him
for independence. Attachment is essential as it provides a secure base for the children, from
where they can explore, learn, and experiment. However, patterns in children's attachment are
influenced by those of their parents and impacts behavioral, psychological and developmental
wellbeing of the child (Rees,2007). The issue is how the children are attached and if their
relationships are reliable and strong.

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When I look back at my childhood, I can say that I enjoyed a strong and healthy bond
with my parents and had a secure attachment style. As my mother was a housewife, she was
always there for my younger brother and me. She helped us with our schoolwork and spent
plenty of time playing games and doing craft activities with us. As I found those activities far
more interesting, I never developed much interest in TV. When we had the internet, I remember
that the computer was password protected and we were given limited time to surf the web or play
games on the computer. According to Rees (2007), parenting is not just about taking care of the
physical needs of the child and take care of his hunger and look for other body signals. It is also
about establishing a bond of trust and empathy with verbal and non-verbal communication. A
baby develops a strong bond with his mother because of the way she responds to his emotions
through her voice, facial expression, and touch. The baby gets an acceptance of its emotions as
the parents give a meaning to them. Poor emotional regulation in an infant can lead to stress and
express as childhood behavioral difficulties later. As I enjoyed a secure attachment style, I feel
stable and secure about my relationships with others. I have enjoyed fulfilling relationships with
other people in my life, including my friends, at work, and family.
For those looking for ways to improve their attachment security with significant others in
their life, a lot would rely on the kind of parenting style and the kind of attachment they have had
and the psychological impact it has had. Apart from secure, one could have avoidant, anxious,
and anxious-avoidant style attachment during childhood (Vieira, Ávila, & Matos, 2012). These
styles mean that one faces difficulties in maintaining relationships, remain anxious, and carry a
risk of depression. The first step would be to acknowledge those issues and relate them to the
attachment style. One might need counseling to restructure their thought patterns and build a
positive self-image. They should develop an optimistic outlook on life and the sense of security